Asking someone out on a date can be super awkward and anxiety-inducing, regardless of whether you’re interested in dating Russian ladies or American women. The fear of rejection makes most men very bad at asking women out on a date.
Sure, getting turned down sucks, but that doesn’t mean that you should avoid asking Russian women out on a date altogether just because you don’t want to risk it all. If you think about it, being rejected is not the end of the world.
Fun fact: in the vast majority of all rejections, the reason why asking a woman out does no succeed is because the man is too overwhelmed by the fear of rejection, which makes him look stupid or say nonsense.
In fact, asking women out on a date on online dating sites maybe even more challenging than doing it in person. After all, you can’t see the girl’s initial reaction or facial expression, and you probably have no idea when is the right time to do it to not seem weird or clingy.
Here are a few golden rules for asking a Russian, Ukrainian, or Belarus beautiful woman out a date like a pro with little to no risk of being rejected.
Tip #1: Don’t overthink it
Your mind can become your worst enemy when it comes to asking a girl out on a date. Every time you approach a beautiful blonde Russian girl, your stream of consciousness goes, “Wait a second… Do you really think that it’s a good idea right now? What about the language barrier? Hey, dude, why don’t you just go home, eat pizza, watch Game of Thrones, and forget about it. No? Well, what if she has a boyfriend who’ll find you and kick your ass? What if she rejects you and laughs in your face?”
Yes, making the first move can be terrifying, but not if you avoid overthinking it. Here’s a simple plan: You see a girl you like, you approach the girl, and you ask her out. Period. Don’t let some crazy theories or “what ifs” get into your hand. Don’t get cold feet. Act before it’s too late, and don’t let your fear dictate your life.
Tip #2: Keep it simple
All you need to do is come up to her, introduce yourself, and ask if she wants to have dinner or grab some coffee. That’s it. You don’t need to write a poem in your head and then read it out to hear, nor do you need to go buy flowers around the corner and then come back and hope that she’s still there. Pay attention to basic dating rules, like opening the door for her, approach her like a gentleman. It is very important in Russian culture.
Don’t complicate things for yourself. It’s much simpler than that.
Tip #3: Be clear about your intentions
Being specific is key to landing a date, and this can be said about making the first move both offline and online. The most awkward thing that can happen is when a girl misreads your intentions. Single Russian ladies like confident men who know what they want and go get what they want.
Therefore, when asking a woman out on a date, you cannot allow yourself to sound hesitant, nor can you afford to stutter. The key to asking a girl out on a first date is making it clear that it’s a date. You don’t want to voluntarily throw yourself into this girl’s “friendzone” or “rejection” barrel full of dudes who couldn’t articulate their intentions correctly, do you?
Tip #4: Ditch all pick up lines
Do you know what’s the worst thing you can say to a girl when asking her out on a date other than insulting her or using foul language? Using pickup lines. Yes, that’s right. Sexy Russian ladies hate those pickup lines, which never – we repeat: never – work. All these pickup lines do is show that you’re unoriginal and boring.
Fun fact: Pickup lines are still pretty useful. At least for Russian women they are. It makes it a whole lot easier for a woman to reject a man when he uses a pickup line!
Tip #5: Wait for the right time
As you may have guessed, this tip applies only to online dating. When you’ve found the Russian order bride of your dreams on an online dating site or dating app, and you feel the urge to get more physical and ask her out on a date, ask yourself this first, “Is this really the right time?”
If it’s been just a few days since you started chatting, it’s probably not the right time to ask her out on a date. If it’s been months, you’ve gotten to know one another, you’ve regularly had WebCam or Video Chats together, and this girl feels comfortable and open, it’s probably a good idea to ask her out on a date.
If she politely rejects you or ignores you, don’t be pushy about it. It’s probably worth waiting a little longer. Give her more time until she’s finally ready for a face-to-face interaction.